Friday, February 5, 2016

A Change of Thinking

Building self confidence is something we all want to do. But sometimes the negative voice inside  our heads over-powers the positive. Here are a few secrets to keeping ourselves on the confident side of life.

1.         Thinking creates feeling
If I want to feel positive and build my self confidence, I have to have positive thoughts. Even if I'm in a bad mood, I can change my feelings by listening to some of my favorite music, looking for the positive in my life, and giving gratitude for my surroundings.

2.         Everyone needs to write his or her their own mantras.
We can use generic thoughts and quotes from wise sources to help us feel better, but we are the only ones who know exactly what our inadequate feelings are.

Margie came into therapy with lots of negative thinking. She wanted a life-time partner, but had been unable to connect with anyone. Margie's father had been killed in the jungles of Vietnam when she was a child, and she felt abandoned.

Here are a couple of mantras she wrote to help herself heal.
* My father will be part of me forever.
*I can still have a loving relationship with my father in my thoughts.
As she healed, Margie began to see herself with a spouse. Her mantras included phrases like:
*I deserve to be cared for.
*I am loveable.
*I am worthy of a relationship.
I could tell Margie had her words just right because tears came to her eyes as she said each phrase. The words spoke to the depths of her soul. With guidance, Margie's own inner wisdom held the healing power. I am always humbled as I work with someone like Margie. It reaffirms what I already know. Healing—true healing—comes from within.

"If you wish to know the road up the mountain, ask the man who goes back and forth on it." Zebrine

3.         Changing your thinking is a process, not an event.
At first we all get enthused about a project, take the time to put it together, and then set it aside to go on to something else. If we are really serious about changing our thinking and our feelings, we have to work at it. It takes constant effort to bring about change.
We care for our physical bodies on a regular ongoing basis, what we put into them, how we exercise them, and the way we surround them with comforts and luxuries. But we sometimes neglect the inside. We must nurture ourselves internally on a consistent, long-term basis as well.
Write your mantras and say them to yourself daily as part of your wellness regime.

4.         Include others in your process.
Allow your friends and family to support you as you write your mantras. Tell them you are only interested in positive energy. They'll encourage you, and you can reciprocate.

As you find good in yourself and others, you add light to the world—the greatest gift you can offer life.

Tuesday, February 2, 2016


Here is an author interview with Anna. I love the background that she gives us here. It makes the book and her reasons for writing it come alive. Enjoy!
1.   If you had 3 wishes, what would they be?
Health, Love and wisdom
2.   Given unlimited resources, what would be your ideal writing environment?
A tower made of glass, including the roof, in the middle of the forest. A day bed (those like Cleopatra used.) A cozy blanket with a fantasy theme printed on it and lots of fruit.
3.   Where do you actually write?
My office. It has a tall 6' by 10' glass window in one wall that looks at my neighbor's house. A big desk full of books, computer, papers and all kind of Cowboy stuff. (including John Wayne’s posters.)
4.   How long does it normally take you to write a novel?
When I started twelve years ago or so, three months for the first draft. Now almost a year, sometimes less. Life keeps me busy.
5.   What are your inspirations?
To be able to write non-stop again.
6.   How did you come to write this particular book or series?
Different ideas and reasons. I love medieval romance and princesses. So it was natural to come up with A Royal Romance. The first book is Once Upon Two Kingdoms. This new book is Kingdom by the Sea.
Kingdom by the Sea was created the night after I saw the musical AIDA, I couldn't sleep because I was disappointed with the ending. (It's just me, the musical is great.) I spent the night thinking what I would have done different if it was my story and by morning Kingdom by the Sea had been born.
Aida has a ship's captain and he is the main protagonist. He is the princess' lover and he does fall in love with a slave girl.
Kingdom by the Sea has some of these elements but the story follows the princess and her awakening to a world she was part of but never knew. It turns out completely different from the musical Aida and that is what makes it awesome.
7.   What was the hardest part of writing your book, and how did you overcome it?
I wanted to get my elf series out first (seven books) because the elf kin wouldn't let me sleep at night, so I had to wait eleven years to publish Kingdom by the Sea.
8.   What is your writing drive? The power that keeps you going when your writing gets difficult?
Mostly the story plots per say and the character's insistence. Some characters are so persistent that you have to give in to them and write the book or await your doom.


Triple A
1.     .   How did you come up with the title?
I was born in Chile, a country that is bathed by the sea from north to south. And we own an island "Easter Island" with natives that I use as the slaves in my book. Kingdom by the Sea has quite a few similarities to my country, so I make it the place for my story, though the story is totally fictitious. It also has Spanish names in it.
"Serena," the main character's name means "mermaid" in Spanish. Her kingdom is "Delmar" which mean "from the sea." "Miramar" the capital's name, means "look at the sea" or "lookout toward the sea." Both of these names are those of real cities in Valparaiso, Chile.
This story also mentions Serena's kingdom's great wine industry, a similarity to the real Chile which has the best wine and grape industry in South America.

2.              Name one entity that you feel supported you outside of family member?
LTUE, Life The Universe and Everything, a huge Writers Symposium in Provo, Utah. I have learned and developed lots of friendships during my many years as a student and panelist there.

3.                   If you could travel anywhere in the world for thirty days and just kick back and relax, where would you go, would you take anyone with you and why would you chose this vacation spot to go?
A cabin in the woods with a roaring fire, two recliners and my husband. We both love the quiet, inspiring forest, winter or summer. There is no place like nature to get my imagination and relaxation working double-time.
4.                    What is your favorite late night snack?
I try not to eat after 6 pm. But sometimes caramels or chocolate made it to my mouth after 9 pm.
5.                    Where do you see yourself in 5-10 years?
Better at my writing. Have some more awards. Published my Intergalactic Detective Series.
6.     Tell us 5 random things about yourself.
I love red hair
I'm not fan of fake nails
I don't wear short anything, but hair
I like Christmas romance movies
I like to dress people. (plays, movies, live trailers, etc.)
7.                   What was the most surprising part of writing this book?

How vividly it brought back to me the smells, memories and sounds of the ocean. I didn't realize how greatly

Friday, January 8, 2016

Light

 At  this time of new beginnings in the New Year, I like to reflect back on the light of the past year. Have I added light to the world? Have I enjoyed the light of those around me?


I have a dear friend who suffers from depression. Inside she may be sad, but she always has a smile for those around her. I tell her that her smile cheers me. She says it is her way of adding light to the world. 


How beautiful would be the world if we all added a joyful smile to the world each day.
* Reflect someone's goodness by a warm embrace.
* Return someone's love.


I make a conscious effort to add light to the world each day.
*Give a friend a compliment.
* Share a positive message with someone who's feeling down.

Many times New Year's Resolutions are forgotten a few days after they are made. Put a memory jogger on your phone or calendar to remind yourself to keep this goal. It will add light to the world and light up your life.

Light is contagious. Spread it around.



Sunday, December 6, 2015

A Visit from the North Pole



 Just after Thanksgiving the children and grand children in our family begin making cookie and candy houses in anticipation of visitors from the North Pole. The guests, a fairy family, come to stay until Christmas. The fairies have lots of fun adventures, let Santa know how good everyone's been, and tag along (in secret) on holiday service projects.

The sky's the limit on the spread the kids create for their family - sledding hills, skating ponds, and swimming pools with diving boards. One house had a slide that started at the top of the roof and shot down onto a toboggan run that extended to the end of the gum drop garden. Candy trees covered with licorice vines give the fairy family a great place to swing from.
We began this tradition years ago when our children were little, and now each set of grandchildren has their own fairies. The ones that used to come to our house were Uncle Henry and Aunt Agatha who tried very hard to keep their niece and nephew, Tom and Martha, under control. But Tom and Martha used to get mixed up in silly adventures that our children loved. Tom broke his ankle on the toboggan run, and got himself locked in the cupboard by a squirrel. Martha tried to sneak some candy canes from the pantry, but she accidentally knocked over a sack of flour, spilling the contents all over her so she looked like a snowman.

Every night the children write letters to the fairies and during the middle of the night the fairies write back. They make sure to tell the children how much they enjoyed their piano practicing, and how quick they were to clean up the table after dinner.
Sometimes the fairies suggest service ideas to help everyone get in the Christmas spirit - like singing carols for the lady down the street or giving cookies to the postman.
If the day has been very busy and the kids haven't had time to write their letter to the fairies, they call their message from the fire place up the chimney. Sometimes the fairies only have time to draw a quick picture about the nights adventures because they accidentally got shut in the dog house by the cat or stuck up the chimney surrounded by an army of live miniature marshmallows.

We have found that this is a great way to enhance the holiday spirit and give the children a creative adventure. Invite a fairy families to your house and have as much fun as the imaginations living with you can think up. 

Happy Holidays.