Tuesday, August 12, 2014

The Two-Minute Marriage Project

Great new book out that will enrich your relationship and change your marriage.

“Often it’s the simple daily doses of small loving actions that nurture a relationship.
The Two-Minute Marriage Project is a celebration of the little things that
can make love last. Filled with the latest marriage research, personal stories,
and anecdotes from happy partners, this book contains everyday tools that can
actually make a difference.”

Margaret Paul, PhD, best-selling author of Do I Have To Give
Up Me To Be Loved By You, Healing Your Aloneness, and Inner Bonding

Author, Heidi Poelman has great insight, every day examples and good common sense to share with readers. Buy her book, read it, and create synergy in your relationship.

Heidi Poelman received her degrees in communication from Brigham Young
University (BA) and Wake Forest University (MA). In graduate school, she
focused specifically on interpersonal communication and conflict management.
She loves researching and writing about subjects that help strengthen
families. In addition to The Two-Minute Marriage Project, Heidi is the author
of the children’s book A is for Abinadi: An Alphabet Book of Scripture Heroes.
She lives in Utah with her husband and three children. Learn more at www.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Opposition Can Bring Rewards

Jason worried about his wife, Penny. She spent too much time on the computer. He had a gut-feeling that she was gambling again, this time on the internet. He had moved his family from Vegas two years ago to keep her out of the casinos. Luckily his internet marketing business didn’t care where he lived.

Jason needed to confront Penny, but he hated to do it. He wanted to believe everything was okay. He had tried to check the credit card balance, but the password had been changed, and he couldn’t get into the account.

He went to the credit union the next day and put a stop on the card.
That afternoon when he left his office in the back of the house, Penny was waiting for him outside the door. “There’s something wrong with the credit card. I can’t get it to go through.”
Jason rubbed his chin. “I’m in the middle of a big job. I’ll sort the card out in a day or two.”
Penny’s jaw tightened. “No, I need it now.”

That night Jason and Penny fought over her gambling. Penny moved out and left him with the children.

Jason was devastated, but he found a therapist and began to work through his own problems. 

After several months Penny lost her job and couldn't pay any of her bills. She had ‘bottomed out,’ and wanted to come home.

By this time Jason was strong enough to tell her she had to make some changes. Penny was willing. She found her own therapist and attended Gamblers Anonymous meetings. She found another job and made arrangements to be responsible for her debts.

The couple struggled for several years, but worked out their problems. At present they have been married forty years.

Jason says of their time together: "The opposition has been difficult, but we know the joy of success because we fought through hard times."

Penny says, "Since we've known trials, we're grateful for the happiness we have now."

No marriage will survive without some opposition.

A certain amount of opposition is a great help to a man. Kites rise against, not with, the wind. Lewis Mumford.

Have you experienced opposition in your life? Are you stronger for it?
1.                  Struggle against opposition brings strength.
2.                  Opposition helps us rise above the crowd.
3.                  Joy of success is all the greater if we've fought to achieve something.
4.                  Dark days make us grateful for the light.

Look for the gifts in your trials. 

Light is always stronger than dark.