Wednesday, August 2, 2017

The Value of a Moment

Watch the way you talk to your kids.

            Do you listen?
            Do you ask them you they will solve their problem?

View the world from their eyes.

            Mirror their feelings.
                        You seem happy today.
                        I’ll bet that was fun.
                        Feeling a little sad?
                        Take some time to sort your feelings.

When they’ve done something good, respond positively.

            That was a very thoughtful way to handle that.
            Looks like you spent some time thinking about that.

Help a child look at their own process and feel encouraged about their actions.
Acknowledge your child's strengths.

Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. Dr. Seuss

Children are young for such a short time.

Monday, June 5, 2017

The Path of Life

Where are you on the path of life?

Are you young and just beginning your life-path—finding passion and fulfillment?

Are you older with physical foibles that curtail your activity, but still allow you to give and receive love?

Are you in the middle of life, creating and working and enjoying?

No matter where you are on the path, have purpose.

What brings you joy?

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.
            Melody Beattie

Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive.
Dalai Lama

It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.
            Maya Angelou

Fill your life with positive light. Find time on your path of life to be grateful, have compassion, and forgive.

Sunday, May 21, 2017

A Happy Marriage

I went to the wedding of a grandniece and her fiancée yesterday. They were both starry-eyed and radiant. When you are at the beginning of the marriage road, it looks like a fairy-tale trip.

A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person (Mignon McLaughlin)

As I waited for the wedding to begin, I reflected on my own marriage—fifty-four years and counting. A fairy-tale isn’t the way I would describe it now. We have had happy times, busy times, desperate times, alone times, pulling-together times, and everything in between. We are both committed to make our marriage work.

Here are some ideas that have helped us keep it happy:

Be kind.
If you feel angry, take a time out and discuss the problem the next day. No one needs to be right or wrong! Find a compromise.

Allow each other to become the very best.
I am grateful my husband has encouraged me to pursue my love of writing. He supports me in every way—including a critique group one night a week. I do the same for him. Allow your spouse to spread their wings and fly.

Enjoy activities together.
We love to play games together—and now we include our children and grandchildren. We love summer vacations in the mountains, riding horses and cooking over a camp fire.

Worship together.
Develop your faith together. Pray together, sing together, worship together, no matter what your religion or your cultural ideals. Live a life style that will accommodate both your beliefs.

Be honest.
If I’m bugged about something, I need to talk about it. Frank, open discussions have helped us survive.

Have alone time.
My husband loves golf, and I don’t. It’s perfect for us. I can go to lunch with my friends or work on my latest manuscript while he’s teeing off.

Give more than you get.
My husband has just come out of an intensive surgery and recovery in the ICU. He’s recuperating slowly, and he’s required lots of care and sacrifice on my part. I’m happy to give it because I know if the tables are reversed, he will do the same for me.

A happy marriage is not so much a matter of romance as it is an anxious concern for the comfort and well-being of one’s companion. (Gordon B. Hinckley)

Friday, April 28, 2017

Weakness Gives Us Strength

If we can see our weaknesses, we can overcome them.

If we don’t know ourselves, we cannot change or progress.

*Weakness keeps us humble.

As I open my mind and heart to the things I need to improve, I open myself to the possibility of change.

*Humility opens us to learning.

My understanding is quickened with ideas about progressing personally.

*Learning bring us knowledge.

As I study, I find concrete behavior changes I can make in my life that will help me live more peaceably.

*Knowledge gives us power.

With this understanding, I see the path to strengthen myself and add more light to my life.

*Power is the ability to change.

I practice my new-found behaviors, and I am a better person. My ability to make the world a better place is increased. I am a stronger person because of my weakness.