Monday, August 20, 2018

Self-Esteem Blasters for Kids

Listen to your child.
View the world from their eyes.

“Only if we understand, will we care.
Only if we care will be help.” Jane Goodall

Mirror a child’s feelings:
            You seem happy today.
            I’ll bet that was fun.
            Feeling a little sad?

“The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” Helen Keller

When your child’s done something good, respond positively.
            That was a very thoughtful way to handle that.
            Looks like you spent some time thinking about that.

“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” Marie Curie

Children are young for such a short time.

"Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory." Dr. Seuss

Sunday, July 15, 2018

Protection? or Prison?

I love the beauty of this little moth, but I must take a minute to think of  the changes it has gone through to bless the earth.

When hiking in the Tetons one afternoon, I watched a delicate blue moth, with hundreds of it's friends flit near a stream of water.

“I would like to be as carefree as you,” I said.
“I haven’t always been this way,” replied Blue. 
“It must have taken great energy for you to create the fragile, but durable chrysalis protection you lived in for a time in your early life.”
“The slumber was delicious,” said Blue, “and a much deserved rest after the energy it took to harbor myself.”
 “But, in the end, it must have been a struggle to break free of the protection you created for yourself,” I said.
“It had become a prison,” said Blue. “The twisting, and pressing to get free was a lot of work?
“You must feel very tired,” I suggested.
“Oh, but look what we’ve become,” said Blue. “The first time I took flight. Such a feeling of exhilaration!”
“What a sense of freedom,” I said.
“But I wouldn’t have appreciated it if I hadn’t known confinement first,” said Blue.
Tiny little Blue danced away. As I watched, I reflected on the parallel between Blue’s life and mine. How many times have I created a protection to shield me from harm—my shyness, my inability to listen to others, my self-centeredness, my lack of empathy. 
As I matured, my protection became a prison. I pushed against my protection, broke free,
and developed wings to fly. Now I enjoy the freedom I have found. Sometimes I slip back into my chrysalis, but I find my wings again rather quickly. Fly with me. Find your wings and come along. The journey is spectacular.

What protection have you created? Has it become a prison? Let go and enjoy the journey.

Friday, June 22, 2018


An inspirational summer read.

On June 10, 2008, Carol Decker walked through the hospital doors, a healthy woman with flu-like symptoms and early labor contractions. Three months later, she returned home, a blind triple-amputee, struggling to bond with a daughter she would never see.

Carol’s fight for survival against sepsis and its life-shattering complications is outlined in this beautifully handcrafted book. Struggle with Carol at every turn in her healing process. Come to know that faith and courage can overcome fear and despair.

Watch a family—husband, parents, and siblings—come together through this trial in a synergistic way that makes them stronger than they ever could have been on their own.

This is an inspiring book that will give any reader a new gratitude for life and limb. I highly recommend this inspirational story that walks the reader through despair, fear, raw-gut courage, faith and finally gratitude for life and its trials.

Carol adds light to the world in many ways. This book is just one of them. This read will change your outlook on life for the good.

Thanks, Carol, to you and your family for giving us this great gift of love.

Link to buy her book on Amazon:

Wednesday, May 2, 2018

The Will to Survive

How strong is your will to survive?

Here is the story of a young girl who tenaciously persisted in outlasting her abuse and abandonment issues.

She was born into an impoverished family in Buffalo, New York. She had no father in her life. Her mother worked out of town and was never available. Her mother shuffled from her grandmother to foster care and back again.

Raped as a pre-teen, she became pregnant. During her pregnancy, she testified against her perpetrator and signed the papers to give her baby up for adoption. She felt dirty and ashamed of her circumstances.

She knew the only way out of her situation was to study hard and get good grades. After graduating from high school, she married and had two little boys. Her husband abandoned her and the children, leaving her destitute.

She lived on welfare, joined the PTA, put her sons in Little League, and went back to school. After graduating from college, she found a job as a librarian at the University of Nevada in Las Vegas.

I met her in Vegas just after her twenty-two-year-old son was killed in a hit-and-run accident on his way home from work. She was devastated!

She didn’t know where to turn. She had poured al her energy into raising her two sons. They were her life.

The tragedy of her son’s death was a turning point in her life. She wished to surround herself with the love of family, friends and neighbors. She wanted an abundance of devoted relationships at the center of her existence.

She set about creating that world.

She reconnected with her mother and aunt. She found her adopted son. She loved her younger son and three wonderful grandchildren. She visited her white-haired neighbors each day and has surrounded herself with loving friends in her church and community.

“You Can Do It” by Carol-Ann Swatling is a workbook she authored during her healing process. It is a testimony to her will to survive and bring light and love into the world. She is an example of choosing to live and love abundantly. Happiness is her reward.