Sunday, May 21, 2017

A Happy Marriage

I went to the wedding of a grandniece and her fiancée yesterday. They were both starry-eyed and radiant. When you are at the beginning of the marriage road, it looks like a fairy-tale trip.



A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person (Mignon McLaughlin)

As I waited for the wedding to begin, I reflected on my own marriage—fifty-four years and counting. A fairy-tale isn’t the way I would describe it now. We have had happy times, busy times, desperate times, alone times, pulling-together times, and everything in between. We are both committed to make our marriage work.

Here are some ideas that have helped us keep it happy:

Be kind.
If you feel angry, take a time out and discuss the problem the next day. No one needs to be right or wrong! Find a compromise.



Allow each other to become the very best.
I am grateful my husband has encouraged me to pursue my love of writing. He supports me in every way—including a critique group one night a week. I do the same for him. Allow your spouse to spread their wings and fly.



Enjoy activities together.
We love to play games together—and now we include our children and grandchildren. We love summer vacations in the mountains, riding horses and cooking over a camp fire.



Worship together.
Develop your faith together. Pray together, sing together, worship together, no matter what your religion or your cultural ideals. Live a life style that will accommodate both your beliefs.

Be honest.
If I’m bugged about something, I need to talk about it. Frank, open discussions have helped us survive.

Have alone time.
My husband loves golf, and I don’t. It’s perfect for us. I can go to lunch with my friends or work on my latest manuscript while he’s teeing off.

Give more than you get.
My husband has just come out of an intensive surgery and recovery in the ICU. He’s recuperating slowly, and he’s required lots of care and sacrifice on my part. I’m happy to give it because I know if the tables are reversed, he will do the same for me.



A happy marriage is not so much a matter of romance as it is an anxious concern for the comfort and well-being of one’s companion. (Gordon B. Hinckley)


Friday, April 28, 2017

Weakness Gives Us Strength

If we can see our weaknesses, we can overcome them.

If we don’t know ourselves, we cannot change or progress.



*Weakness keeps us humble.

As I open my mind and heart to the things I need to improve, I open myself to the possibility of change.


*Humility opens us to learning.

My understanding is quickened with ideas about progressing personally.






*Learning bring us knowledge.

As I study, I find concrete behavior changes I can make in my life that will help me live more peaceably.













*Knowledge gives us power.

With this understanding, I see the path to strengthen myself and add more light to my life.













*Power is the ability to change.




I practice my new-found behaviors, and I am a better person. My ability to make the world a better place is increased. I am a stronger person because of my weakness.









Monday, April 3, 2017

Our Heritage


I belong to a group of pioneer women who meet every month to share ancestor histories and discuss daily pioneer life.I love being with these women because we enjoy a common heritage. Even though we aren’t related, we came from the same roots.

As we connect with our ancestors and learn of their trials and struggles and painfully sad experiences, I grieve with those who have gone before. It helps me put my life in perspective.


When I throw a load of clothes in the washing machine, I think of the pioneers boiling their clothes and then scrubbing off the difficult stains on a corrugated tin wash board. I know my life isn’t that difficult.

I listen to the triumphs of by-gone years, and know that if they could succeed, I can also. I gain strength from their stories to become better than I am. A sense of synergy comes into my life as I reconnect with them and
I am more . . .














and greater . . .


and stronger . . .












because of them.

Connect with your past. Find gratitude in your heart for them. Grow beyond yourself because of them. Let them bless your life.