Sunday, July 5, 2015

Cherish Your Children Teach Them Your Values




Mike, age five, hurried behind his mother into the store. 

 
"I have to get some milk and bananas for breakfast in the morning," said Mother.

Mike helped his mother pick out the best bunch of bananas and scurried behind her to the aisle to choose the milk.

The checkout line was long. 

Mike looked at the candy bars as they got closer to the cashier. He sniffed them. The chocolate smelled so good. He ran her fingers over them.  He was tired from playing outside and wanted a treat. He glanced up at his mother who was talking to the lady behind her in the line. Mike slipped a chocolate bar into his pocket. He would eat it when he got to the car."


When they left the store, Mike said to his mother, "Look Mother, I got a candy bar."

"Oh, Mike," said Mother. "We didn't pay for it."

"It's okay," said Mike. "The store lady smiled at me. She will let me have it."

Mother explained to Mike that they needed to pay for the things they got at the store, and they went back into pay for the candy bar.

That night Mother and Dad sat with Mike to be sure he understood that they had to pay for the things at the store. Dad suggested that they give Mike some money for helping with some of the household chores. He made his bed and helped with the dishes everyday just because he lived in the house, but if he wanted to help clean the bathroom mirrors and take out the garbage he could earn some money to buy himself a candy bar if he wanted one.

Their informal family council meeting taught Mike:
1.         I have to pay for what I get.
2.         I can earn money for what I want.
3.         I can work hard.

The family council meeting sent Mike the message:
You cherish me enough to teach me your family values.
You respect me enough to help me learn from my mistakes.

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Feed Your Family Healthy Foods the Easy Way



The Healthy Family Slow Cooker Cookbook Christina Dymock  

Have you ever been so busy during your day you have no time to prepare dinner? I have. I love Christina's recipes and ideas for the crock pot. It's fun for me to take a few minutes early in the morning and get dinner planned. I feel so much better about myself and what I'm feeding my family.

Feed your family the foods they love—with a healthy twist.

Everyone knows slow cookers are a busy mom’s best friend, but it can be a struggle to find healthy Crock Pot recipes your kids will actually eat. Not anymore.
These delicious family-sized meals are perfect for parents and kids alike.
  • Chicken and Artichoke Fettucini
  • Teriyaki Pulled Pork
  • Cajun Rice with Shrimp
  • Butternut Squash Soup
  • Chicken Quesadillas
You’ll even find some tasty ideas for sugar-free desserts, like the Blueberry Pudding Cake. And every single recipe can be made in the morning and ready to eat by dinnertime. With a little prep and planning, you’ll soon be enjoying nutritious, healthy, home-cooked meals every night of the week!


About the author:
Christina Dymock is a graduate of the University of Utah. She has had careers as an editor at an advertising agency, an adjunct instructor at Salt Lake Community College, and author.
An avid cook, Christina divides her time between the kitchen, her computer, and books and her family of six. (Naturally, the family gets the biggest share.) Because she reads everything, she also feels compelled to write in several genres. Her latest book, Blue Christmas, reached the Amazon top seller list in 7 categories as part of the Christmas anthology, Christmas in Snow Valley.
Christina attends multiple writer’s conferences each year, is a part of several critique groups, and enjoys learning about writing. She has been featured during the cooking segment of several local morning shows, published in Woman’s World Magazine and the Deseret News, quoted in Womans’ World Magazine and Parents’ Magazine, published in seven Chicken Soup books, and has published clean romantic fiction under the name Lucy McConnell.

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

What Values Are You Passing on to Your Children?

A couple of years ago I read an article in the New York Times called Stories That Bind Us by Bruce Feiler. Strong families have a strong narrative. Did your parents and grandparents tell you their stories? What are your family tales of struggle, success, and fun? Do you share them with your children? We can find our way along the path of life if we know what's happened on the road in the past.

My great great grandfather came to the United States from Denmark. He was a wealthy dairyman who sold his possessions to emigrate. The story is told of his generosity in helping others come to this country who couldn't afford the passage.





My great grandmother married and settled in a small town in rural Idaho. She became a midwife and helped mothers all over the county give birth.


My grandmother was widowed at a young age. She found employment as a social worker even before such government agencies became well established.



 



 
My mother was also widowed when I was a small child. She went back to school, earned a PhD, and taught at a university, helping many of her students find a better life and launch their own careers.








After our children were all in school, I became licensed as  Marriage and Family Therapist, establishing a large practice in Las Vegas. I worked with families of all shapes and sizes.
Each of our children has followed a different career path: a math teacher, a baker, a kindergarten teacher, a librarian, a salesman, and an artist.
But all their paths contain the gift of service to others. This way was firmly established for all of us by our great great grandfather, and has come down through the ages as a mantra for all of us because of our family stories.
 
What are your family stories?

Talk about the strengths, the struggles, and the triumphs you and your family have experienced. Stories are your path to wholeness. If you see your stories as tales of failure, look more closely and find the courage and hidden valor of your ancestors. They are there.

Happy story telling!




Here's a link to the entire New York Times article.
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/17/fashion/the-family-stories-that-bind-us-this-life.html?pagewanted=1&_r=0

Monday, April 13, 2015

Roses, an Expression of Love



Roses, a Connection to the Past, an Expression of Love, and a Conduit to the Future.

Springtime always reminds me of my grandmother. I can see her pruning and spading the rose garden. She loved to plant little annuals to highlight the roses along the edge of the flowerbed. My mother had care of the roses after my grandmother was gone.  She spent hours, making sure the mulch and fertilizer were perfect for producing large blooms. Now it's my turn to nurture the rose bed.
 

















 
I feel a bond with the past as I turn over the rich black soil. It's as if I know my place in the world—I'm a link in the chain to my past.

My children and grandchildren love the rose garden. When they visit, we take time to examine each flower and admire the shape, color, and smell. 

The families that live close keeps fresh roses from the garden in their homes all summer long, whether early or late in the season.

Who will care for the roses in the future? That's still up in the air, but it will happen the way it's supposed to happen. Another link will add itself to the chain.

In our family roses are a connection to the past, an expression of love, and a conduit to the future. 

What outward extension of love do you have in your family that creates the generational chain?

Friday, March 20, 2015

Trust


 
Learning to trust is one of life's most difficult tasks. Isaac Watts

Trust of Self

How many times a day do I doubt my abilities? I stop my negative thinking and put a positive statement in my head, and then a short time later an unwanted negative slips in and I have to repeat the process all over again.
 

Each time I face myself, I grow stronger.

 Trust of Others

I trust some of my family and some of my friends.  If they have good things to say about others, they will be positive about me. Those are the people I can share with.

I have learned to teach others how to earn my trust. If I feel hurt or betrayed by someone, we talk it over. If they listen and respect my boundaries, we will build trust in each other.

 Each time I face others, I grow stronger.

Trust in God

Sometimes I pray in desperation for blessings from my Father in Heaven. As time goes by, my desperation is replaced by the faith that I had forgotten for the moment. I know God  will bless me.

Proverbs 3: 5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
6  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

 Each time I face God, I grow stronger.