Judgmental? Critical of Others?
Often our thinking and speaking patterns are habitual.
Are you used to criticizing others? Do you look at someone
you meet for the first time and find fault with what they are wearing? Their
speech? Their actions?
Some reasons we are critical:
1.
Competition is the name of our game. We are only
good if we are better than others so we put others down in order to make
ourselves feel good.
2.
It’s just a habit we learned as kids, and we
continue to think that way.
3.
Being opinionated is a family pattern.
4.
We are caught up in black and white—right and
wrong--thinking.
5.
We believe everyone around us should think and
be exactly like we do.
Ways to change our thinking patterns:
1.
Practice cooperating with others rather than
competing with them. When we cooperate, everyone wins.
2.
Change our habits. When a critical thought comes
into my head, I picture a STOP sign and find a positive thought.
3.
Let’s keep our family opinions, but accentuate
the positive ones.
4.
There are many shades of gray in people. Get rid
of the black and white. If we listen and learn about the people around us, I
guarantee we’ll find something good.
5.
The world would be very dull if we all thought
alike. Enjoy the differences around you. Celebrate them, and others will
celebrate you.
If you are someone who always finds the good in people, you
will probably continue to do so. Positive energy flows through you, keeping you
peaceful and upbeat.
Where are you on the judgmental thinking scale?